What it's like to be married to an entrepreneur

It's easy for me to sit here and tell (or show) you what I'm working on, how business has been going, etc. But, what might be more interesting is to hear it from an outsiders perspective! Who better to talk with than my own husband?! So, today I am interviewing my husband, Aaron, to get his take on my freelance life! (My responses are in italics!)

It's easy for me to sit here and tell (or show) you what I'm working on, how business has been going, etc. But, what might be more interesting is to hear it from an outsiders perspective! Who better to talk with than my own husband?! So, today I am interviewing my husband, Aaron, to get his take on my freelance life!

A little history on Aaron and I: We have been married for two and a half years! He works as an audio assistant at a local church, where he works with both video and audio. We're both creative people... which can be good and bad. :)

On to the interview! 

Q: What has your involvement been with Jess Creatives?

Aaron: My biggest involvement has been encouragement. She'll ask me for feedback on designs every now and then, but most of the time she gets annoyed when I start blurting out random ideas. Sometimes she'll bounce ideas and questions off of me, and we try to figure it out together. In a more literal sense, this year we added video services to Jess Creatives, which is basically all me, so that's been fun!

(Aaron is definitely the dreamer in the relationship, and sometimes that translates into brainstorming crazy ideas. It's not that I get annoyed, but sometimes I'm in a time crunch and trying to think of the best solution... and I don't always want to try out some of his crazy ideas!)

Q: Can you talk about some of the hardships you face being the spouse of an entrepreneur?

Aaron: There is no such thing as an eight-hour day. If a client needs something, she is extremely responsive and will get it to them as soon as possible. It's also different now that she's working from home full-time, because now there's no "alone time" for me to watch movies as loud as I want. 

(I don't struggle with jumping off the computer at 5 or 6 p.m., but it's when I get an email later in the evening that I struggle to stay on the couch. Recently, I took email off my phone to try and make that easier! As for the "loud" comment at the end, he's an audio engineer... so he has external speakers for our TV, and loves to turn them up! Action movies = loud.)

Q: What are some of the joys you have experienced being married to an entrepreneur?

Aaron: The best part was when she went full-time freelance, because I knew she wasn't happy at her day job. It was really exciting to see her less stressed, and doing what she was meant to be doing. It's also exciting to see some of the clients she's been able to work with (and since I'm her husband, I'm allowed to name drop), like Chick-fil-A, North Point Ministries, Socks' Love Rub, and who knows who else in the future!

(I think the Freeman house was on a high whenever I went full-time freelance! It's great when a spouse shares in your dream, and we were ecstatic when that dream came true. I've always said that Aaron is Jess Creatives biggest cheerleader. He fist pumps for every new project/client.)

Q: If you had to define your wife (as an entrepreneur) in three words what would they be?

Aaron: Hardworking, focused, committed.

( ... I'll take it!)

Q: What would you tell other women/men who are about to marry an entrepreneur?

Aaron: I would tell them to encourage their spouse whenever they can, and reassure them in their abilities. For Jessica, when I encourage/reassure her, it helps her stress less - if she believes me.

(It's kind of like when a parent tells you that you're awesome - they "have" to tell you that... they're your parent! But, if I'm really struggling, it's nice to have such a supportive spouse that will help push me through it!)

Q: What is one of the greatest lessons you have learned being married to an entrepreneur?

Aaron: They might not always want your input, which can be frustrating, but just know that they do still value your opinion. Also, don't push them if they are not ready to do something. In the beginning, Jessica was hesitant to put herself out there because she didn't feel competent. 

(Aaron has had some part - big or small - in most of the personal projects I've done... but some of them took a little extra pushing. Early on, before I really started to push Jess Creatives in full gear, I was so resistant to the idea of freelance and putting myself out there. Aaron knew I could do it, but I didn't want to fail. But, now here I am!)


So, a recap in a few words: I work a lot (and love it), and have a VERY supportive husband. I'm thankful to be able to do what I love and get paid for it. But even more, I'm thankful that I have a husband who is 100% behind me. Being an entrepreneur can be scary, and there are many times when I have needed him to talk me down. His support shines through the way he pushes me to be more creative, AND when he pushes me to take breaks :-) 

What advice would you give to someone in an relationship with an entrepreneur?